Mr. Right, do you know what you are looking for?

Proverbs 19:2

English Standard Version (ESV)

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Desire[a] without knowledge is not good,

    and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.

Who are you searching after?  What kind of man are searching for?  Are you looking for the man in shining armor that is going to sweep you off your feet?  The guy that promises you the world?  The guy in all the chick flicks that sees you on a pedestal and all else just fades away. Your one true love, complete with the magical true love's first kiss as we see in every Disney movie that ever existed.  Or are you searching for someone, anyone to be a provider for your family and you'll settle for a man that doesn't treat you the greatest, but at least you'll have some security?? Or maybe you haven't really given much thought to it and don't think your are worthy of a man to treat you good, so again you settle for the guy that's here now?

Why search? Why settle?

Do you think if you aren't searching, you'll never find him?  Do you think you are unworthy of a man who will treat with respect and dignity, but yet deep down its what your longing for?

I understand. I have been in your shoes.  I remember searching not really for a husband, but seeking for a companion whom I thought was charming because that was the thing to do. Dating a guy for a week, oh my, he loves me, oh boy it was meant to be, he sent me flowers, he must really love me, he must really think I'm special....  

I couldn't have been more wrong.  Don't get me wrong I had great parents, but I was super lost in the love department, and tended to just go along with the flow of what everyone else was doing.  

Truth is boys are searching too, but some are searching with wrong intentions.  If he tells you he loves you in a matter of days, chances are, he's after one thing, and I'm sure you know what that one thing is.  Not trying to be critical on boys or men here, those are just my conclusions from my younger years.  If it feels as though he's moving too fast, smooth talking, he loves you to the moon and back, bleh, bleh, bleh, red flag! red flag! red flag! 

BE AWARE, men, 

especially young men are very visual 

and physical beings.  

With that thought in mind, ask yourself,

"Do I dress in a way that is going to attract the kind of man I want in my life?"

When my husband and I found each other, neither of us were searching.  Even after we were dating for a little while, we weren't sure if it was love, but knew we enjoyed each other's company.  We knew there was something, but weren't sure what.  We lived 70 miles apart from each other for 3 years dating.  He didn't tell me he loved me until 5 months after we started dating.  That's when I knew ladies, that he was truly interested in me, and wasn't just trying to lure me in.

So Why search? Why Settle?

    

Are you afraid of being alone? 

You are not alone.  

JESUS is with you 

Lean on Him

He will be your provider

He will give the provisions of not only your emotional needs, 

but your physical needs. (Food, shelter, safety, etc) 

I have a challenge for you ladies.  Instead of searching for Mr. Right, for now, focus on the perfect Man you have right now.  Allow Him to move in your life and fill your needs and empty spots.  The bible promises in Psalm 37:4 that if we take delight in Him, He will give us the desires of our hearts. 

Make a list.  Make a list of characteristics of what you want in a man.  What does that man look like, treat you and your family, what is his work ethic, what are his morals, just to name a few...

What are your desires?  In your heart what do you desire for your husband to be? For you? For the father of your child(ren)?   This is something not to be taken lightly, or to bend on.  What are your desires for your family to look like?  

So stop searching ladies, and start praying.  The right guy will come along, he will be placed in your path and you will know, because you won't be searching for him.  Yet he will be the one for you, if your are diligent.  He will be the one God has found for you. Here are some ideas for prayers for your future husband:

Maybe you had a tough childhood, and wish to break free of that, and want something different for your life.  Let me tell you something    

You can.  

It won't be easy.  It will take a lot prayer, patience, and guidance.  Counseling is a great way to bring new perspective into your life.  If this is something that is on your heart please let one of us at the center know and we can help guide you through this process.   

   

Stop searching, and start praying. He will bring the right man into your life.  How exciting is that?  

Bottom line-Don't be in a rush ladies.  You are worth the wait, and he will wait for you, if he truly loves you.  

Dear Lord

You know the desires of our hearts Lord, even better then we know ourselves.  Help us, remind us to pray our families, for our futures, and future relationships.  Help us to seek you first above all else. Help us to seek out healing in the areas where we maybe hurting.  In your name, Lord Jesus, Amen  

Comfort and Peace

"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God."

2 Corinthians 1:3-4

 

This week has been a tough week emotionally for me. 

I've had an aching in my chest.  

I miss her.  

I miss talking to her.

My sisters and I were able to go through her things this past weekend after 6 months have passed. I can't believe it has been that long already. Where does the time go?  While rummaging through her things, figuring out what we were going to keep or give away, I couldn't help but smell her clothes, her makeup brush, her lotions, her perfumes.  They all still lingered of her sweet smell.  Her purse still smelled like Wrigley's double mint gum, her favorite. 

I miss her. I miss her sweet presence. 

My son's birthday is on Saturday this week, my mom's is on Sunday.  For the past 11 years, 

we have always celebrated them together.  

I ran into a friend in the parking lot yesterday that I haven't seen in a few years and she asked me how my mom was doing. Grrr, then it hits again. That reality button.  

I went to the store, and am reminded. Oh yes, Mother's Day...

I have not forgotten you Mom. I love you dearly, 

and you are missed oh, so much.

  Your hugs, your words, your laugh, your smile.    

Our coffee "calls", your serving heart, the love you showed to all 

My heart aches and I miss you so much! 

When it hits, that reality button, I am reminded. 

While she is not here and we all miss her like crazy, 

the place she is now, 

she is having the ultimate party.

He loves her more than all of us combined.

She is in good hands.

That gives me peace 

That gives me comfort

That gives me Joy

Have fun Mom,

 I know I will see you again

With Mother's Day coming in the next week, what are some things that your mother taught you that you would like to carry on into your children as they grow?  My mom had this crazy ability to see or hear over the phone whether I was sad, happy, glad, or mad.  Let me tell you, I couldn't hide anything from that woman.  She had an amazing gift.  She never was shaken by the people around her. She had an amazing ability to turn someone's gloomy day into a day full of sunshine, no matter if it was a customer she barely knew, or a family member. She always had a smile on her face and was ready to conquer the world.  She was strong.  I am so thankful for the things she taught me and my children through her gifts.

Let's Pray!  

Dear Lord, 

Thank You for the amazing peace You bring into my life.  You bring such comfort and I am truly amazed in how your presence can change a saddened heart into a heart full of joy.  Thank you for being there for me when I need it most.  I love you. In Jesus' name, Amen