Beginning YOUR family

Today I would like to encourage each of you to look at your newly started family as “YOUR” family.  What is this crazy lady talking about?  Hear me out!  Each of us were raised by one or two people, and they were raised by one or two other people and so on and so forth.  Have you ever thought about what you want for your family?  You can choose what you want your children to learn from you, What kind of home you want them to grow up in, and so on. Are there some things that you wish you would have learned or that your parent’s would have taught you?  What about your experience as a child, what were things that you liked, things you disliked, etc?  How do these things affect you today?  What would you like to teach your children?  What kinds of morals do you want to instill in them?

 

When we begin our own families, we begin a new generation.  We can either continue to live all we’ve ever known, or we can start looking at life at a different angle.  Begin to break chains that are holding you down, start fresh, and grow a new family all your own.  Not that we need to break off our past all together, but we can choose to learn from past mistakes, and start putting one foot in front of the other and establish goals for yourself and your family.  If it feels like you are trudging in murky waters a little too often, it might be time to open up your mind and start looking around on why? Even talk to someone whom you trust to get a different, honest opinion.  We all have memories and things that we have learned that are great and some things that we carry with us that we wish we didn’t.  This is better known as baggage.  We can decide if we want to leave that baggage behind or carry it with us.  The choice is yours. If think you may need healing from something before you can leave it behind, talk to someone whom you trust and ask for prayer.  I would be happy to pray with you and help you talk through what we can.  Nothing is impossible to overcome with Him on your side.  I know for some of you this may seem way far out in the distance, but let me tell you, time, it goes so fast!

Thoughts to Ponder: (5 Points if you bring in)

Take a moment a jot some of your ideas and thoughts down with each of these statements:

What are some things you enjoyed from your childhood?

What are some things that you disliked from your childhood?

What did discipline look like in your childhood?  Likes, Dislikes?

Are there things that you felt were missing from your childhood?

(Examples: dinners together, spirituality, quality time, etc)

What kind of morals were instilled in you from your childhood?

Are there morals you wish you would have learned?

Are there things you need healing from (baggage) that you wish to leave behind?

(Examples: Past experiences, fear, anxiety, depression, etc)

 

Now, Begin YOUR family legacy!

What do you hope to teach YOUR children?

What are some important things that you wish to YOUR children to carry with them as they grow into adults?

Discipline for YOUR family, what does it look like?

What kind of morals do you want to instill in YOUR family?

Spirituality, church, what do we believe? 

What are some short term goals for YOUR family?

(These are things you accomplish within 6 months)

What are some long term goals for YOUR family?

(6 months or longer to accomplish)

Remember there is no such thing as a perfect parent, and they don’t each come with their own manuals, but God thankfully gave us His.  There are many scriptures in the bible that tell us all we need to know about raising children. Children are important, and the things we teach them, or don’t, they will carry with them in the next generation.  We have an important role in their lives. You do need to know, there is no one more capable than YOU to parent your children.  God chose you to be their Mother! He chose YOU, and He doesn’t make mistakes J